So Long Plan A, Hello Plan B

Crossing out Plan A and writing Plan B on a blackboard.

So, it looks like Jade and I will be putting our planned move on hold.  As it turns out, Jade’s oldest sister, Anne, was diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer.  Anne’s cancer cannot be treated because she is in end stage renal failure (due to polycystic kidney disease) and she has congestive heart failure (and a pace maker).  The fact is, Anne’s cancer is terminal.  It is likely that Anne will die from the very same type of cancer that Jade’s mother did.

To be honest, we have known about Anne’s cancer for about a year now.  I have personally known about it for about 15 months.  The cancer has spread to the bones in her back, her lung, and her lymph nodes.  Based on recent behavior and cognitive difficulties, we also believe the cancer may also have spread to her brain though Anne has no intentions of finding out.  Anne has lost a great deal of weight over the past six months.  She looks frail.  Her memory is shot and she is more and more dependent on pain medications to manage her pain.  Hospice is now involved.

Because of all of this, Jade and I have decided to put our plans for our move to Atlanta on hold.  Our condo is for sale and under contract so we had to find a place to rent quickly! We found a cute little house with a white picket fence (seriously) on Anne’s street.  During these last few months of her life, we want to be close to her.  We want to be able to assist with her needs.  I am a nurturer.  Since I have no children of my own (aside from my two fur babies), I will nurture Anne until the end.  You see, a nurturer always finds someone or something that needs to be nurtured.

It is amazing to me how life pushes you.  Jade and I lost our little embryo earlier this week but in that sadness, we made the decision to stay here for our family.  I will be here to help make Anne’s remaining time a bit more peaceful.  And I will be here to comfort Jade when the time comes.

“It was amazing how you could get so far from where you’d planned, and yet find it was exactly were you needed to be.”
― Sarah Dessen, What Happened to Goodbye


9 thoughts on “So Long Plan A, Hello Plan B

  1. I’m so sorry your family is dealing with this. My step-mom has stage IV renal cell carcinoma. Lots of hugs to you and Jade. How great that you get to be so close during this time.

    • Thank you for your support. It is a really tough time right now but we will get through this. I am so sorry to hear about your step-mom. Sending you lots of light and positivity as your family deals with this struggle.

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